C4P 8: Mom vs. Dad Dilemma - Part 2

Men and women usually have very different ideas about how things should be done. This is also true as Moms and Dads raise children. When you have a child with special challenges, Moms and Dads often have unique perspectives and different ways to tackle the situation. Often these differences can cause stress on the marriage if the parents are together and lots of turbulence for couples parenting separately. It can be heart wrenching. Join us for Part Two of “Mom vs. Dad Dilemma” where Julie has a special message for the Moms.

Bible Passage:

1 Thes. 5:14-24


Moms:

You are beginning to realize that something may be amiss with your child.

Sometimes your child can drive you crazy and you feel badly about that.

You are now in full pursuit or ready to be in full pursuit of finding out:

*what could be going on with your child

*what professionals you need to get involved

*the absolute best you can bring to your child to help them have every opportunity to the best they can be.

You also may be struggling with Dad's reaction to what is going on with your child

and your desire to pull out all the stops and scour the highways and byways for what and who can help your child.

You may be feeling resistance from Dad. 

· Do you feel a tension and a battle with your child's Dad to get the kind of help you want to for your child?

· Does it seem that he just doesn't see things the same way you do and he doesn't understand why you want to go to such measures?

Join us for some practical ways to work with Dad for the sake of your child.

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C4P 7: Mom vs. Dad Dilemma - Part 1

Men and women usually have very different ideas about how things should be done. This is also true as Moms and Dads raise children. When you have a child with special challenges, Moms and Dads often have unique perspectives and different ways to tackle the situation. Often these differences can cause stress on the marriage if the parents are together and lots of turbulence for couples parenting separately. It can be heart wrenching. Join us for Part One of “Mom vs. Dad Dilemma” where Tom has a special message for the Dads.

Show notes for Podcast 6 “Mom vs. Dad Dilemma - Part 1”

Bible Passage:

1 Thes. 5:16-18, 23-24

Dads:

You love your family. You feel the responsibility to make sure their needs are met and work hard to make sure that happens.

You start to see differences in your child.

You are in fix-it mode and are all about getting him or her involved in activities to increase maturity.

Mom’s ideas may seem a little strange. You are a little uncomfortable with methods she introduces you to that she wants to implement to help your child.

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C4P 6: Realizing Your Accomplishments

When raising children, and especially those who have challenges, we often find ourselves at the end of the day feeling that we have not accomplished a thing. However when we take a closer look at how our time was actually spent, we are surprised at all that DID get done. Join us and get some ideas on steps you can take to realize your accomplishments instead of focusing on your inefficiencies or the undone task list you created. It will change your whole perspective.

Shownotes:

Bible Passage:

Phil. 4:8

An Activity for You:

Did you hug your child today?

Did you feed your children food today?

Did you clean up after your child today?

Did you wash your child’s clothes, toys, shoes, crib, high chair,

bouncy seat, baby wrap, car seat cover, blanket, stuffed animal, pacifier,teething ring, bike, etc. today?

Did you wash your child’s face, hands, hair, feet, arms today?

Multiple times?

What ELSE have you done?

Reflect on not necessarily what was on your task list – but what you actually spent your minutes doing today.

Look back over the day and Document what you DID do!

Get detailed.

Become aware.

Get encouraged.

Get motivated.

Rejoice!

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C4P 5: Creating an Awesome Summer Plan

In the summer (and during holiday times), schedules change. Do you find yourself dreading summer or holidays because you remember last time being filled with bored, unhappy children or children who are happy to be fixated on electronics, ALL-DAY-LONG, and you had such a battle trying to get the children to do other activities to enrich their minds? Do you feel a bit overwhelmed trying to figure out how to plan out the days so that they enhance your child’s development, refresh all of you, give you days to look forward to, and leave you with good memories? In this podcast we share with you ideas to help you create a way to make the summer wonderful for you and for your child(ren).

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Bible Passages:

Proverbs 16:9,  “A man’s mind plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps.”

Proverbs 19:21, “Many plans are in a man's heart, But the counsel of the LORD will stand.”

Proverbs 20:24, “Man's steps are ordained by the LORD, How then can man understand his way?”

Psalm 37: 23,  “The steps of a man are established by the LORD, when he delights in his way.”

Acts 17:28 “For in him we live, and move, and have our being.”

Practical Steps to Create an Awesome Summer Plan

Schedule a time to plan:

  1. list all of the things about your summer days with your family that really are non-negotiable.

  2. list the activities you would like to include in your "free time"

  3. list the skills you would like to work on with your children

  4. list several ideas for YOU to recharge.

  1. Prepare your child's thinking for the changes ahead

  2. Implement activities and exercises that will not only keep your child fit but also do great things for and in his/her brain.

Tip for the Day: Practical Mind-shift Steps on a Bad News Day

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C4P 4: Preparing Your Anxious Child for a New Experience

When our anxious children anticipate a new experience, it can be a bit perplexing for parents to know how to help them get ready.In this episode we will share some tips to calm the chaos that can happen within our children who have a hard time with something new. As parents, our goal is to empower our children. Tune in to find tools to help your child confidently enjoy new experiences.

Your Preparation
Observation & Research
Gather intel about the activity or event
Identify major focus points
Think about what sets your child off

Prepping the Tools
Charts
Digital Recordings
Social Stories
Stress Balls

Preparing Your Child
Using the Tools

Communication with Others

Also: Tip for the Day: Remember the Greater Purpose

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C4P 3: Growing a Confident Reader

Teaching our children to read can be a daunting task. Teaching a child who struggles carries its own special challenges. One method we used proved very successful to get the ball rolling and to build confidence for our kids and for countless other struggling readers. On this podcast, we share that method in detail.

Often our struggling readers get discouraged and defeated. Today we also share with you a strategic way to keep children encouraged and eager to try.

Join us for tried and true methods you can implement with a child you love.

1. Grab your child's favorite book.

2. Create a vocabulary list from words in the book.

3. Make flash cards of words from your list.

4. Flash the words in random order for 1 minute.

5. After a while, ask the child if they want to tell you the words you are flashing.

6. Keep working through all the words you have chosen.

7. Put known words in a review pile.

8. Repeat process with new group of words.

9. Once a day review reserve pile for 2 minutes

10. Highlight known words in child's favorite book.

11. Read the book together,

12. Have child read the words he or she knows.

13. Eventually have child read entire book to you.

14. Eagerly help with any words child has forgotten.

15. CELEBRATE the child's success.


Encourage your struggling reader with:

digital recordings
cue cards
stories of famous people

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C4P 2: Preparing for an Important Meeting on Behalf of your Child

As we advocate for our children, there are many meetings with professionals that must take place. Preparing for these meetings can be a little overwhelming. Whether it is an IEP meeting with your child's educators, or follow-ups with doctors, or therapy sessions with speech, occupational, or physical therapists, or any other meeting with a professional who can make a difference for your child's development, you want to have certain things in place. Join us for five tips to help you be the best advocate for your child during these meetings.

Five Tips to help you best advocate for your child during meetings with professionals:

1. Dress Up

2. Take a Notebook

3. Be a Team Player

4. Display an Attitude of Gratitude

5. Be Willing to Listen to the Other Side

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C4P 1: Getting the Diagnosis

You have just received a diagnosis for your child. Or…you wonder if your child should have a diagnosis. This is a lot to process and we, as parents, can get caught up in all the medical and educational lingo and lose perspective. Sometimes it feels like you walked straight into a brick wall and it is hard to catch your breath. Join us for seven tips to a healthy way to process a diagnosis for your child.

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7 Tips on How to Process Your Child’s Diagnosis

Getting a diagnosis for your child may have come after a long process of trying to figure out what is going on with your child. Learning or behavior or medical struggles may have sent you down a road you never thought you would travel. And now the “Label” has been affixed.

Here are some things that we have learned in this process that may be helpful to you.

The Grief Factor. You may go through stages of grief in the loss of the dream you had for your child. That is okay. In fact, it is important. Give yourself the freedom to grieve. BUT – don’t get stuck in a downward spiral. There is SO much to life with this child. Look for the roses through the thorns of grief.

Your child is NOT his or her diagnosis. The diagnosis does not define your child. Our Amy HAS CHARGE Syndrome. Amy is not CHARGE Syndrome. There is an important distinction here. We never allowed Amy’s identity to be wrapped up in her diagnosis. Amy is Amy.

Your child’s journey is unique. The label does not dictate what your child will or will not do.  Our Amy’s prognosis was “she will be blind, deaf, and mentally retarded [this was 20 years ago]. She will most likely not walk, talk or eat by mouth.” This was read to us out of a medical textbook when she was two weeks old. Fast forward 20 years. Amy has a field loss in her vision but sees very well. Amy is deaf completely in her left ear BUT wears a hearing aid in her right ear and does amazingly well with the hearing she does have. We like to say she is hard-of-hearing. She is brilliant, an ace on the computer, and surprises us every day with the depth to her intelligence and her thought processes. She walks, runs, dances, and talks a blue streak every day, and at this time in her life she eats 100% by mouth!

Look for the Silver Linings. Always be looking for the silver linings in the clouds if/when they become dark from time to time.  Even through the worst storms, we can find rainbows. The key is to look for them.

Enjoy your Child. Every diagnosis carries with it special challenges. Don’t let the challenges steal your joy in raising this child. Your child is more normal than he or she is not. Meaning – a kid is a kid is a kid. They are so precious no matter what the diagnosis or their delay. Look for and marvel at the uniqueness and beauty of your child’s personality.

Say YES to help. If someone offers to help with either the child with a diagnosis, their siblings, your errands, cleaning, laundry, cooking, shopping, etc. If you feel it is a genuine offer and that person is someone you can work with well, by all means accept the love they want to give you and your family. It most likely will bring them a certain joy as well.

Trust Your Gut. Whenever you are making decisions regarding your child, learn to trust your intuition – your gut. There is a precious “knowing” that happens with parents toward their children that should never be negated or discouraged.

Life is hard. No question. Getting a diagnosis for your child can be heartbreaking. We know. We also know that there is so much richness to life in this unique journey if you will allow it to bless you.

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